husband won t let me be a sahm

It seems like you may have subconsciously be drawn to a critical partner who withdraws under stress. A lot of times, when a separation happens, the higher-earning spouse (let’s call him the husband, because in most cases, unfortunately, that’s still true) stops having his paycheck direct deposited into the joint account. My employer was happy for me to do part time hours on full pay (which was great) but not I have more workload and I need to do full time hours plus travel (I’m still bfing). Husband Won't Let His Wife Be a SAHM—Say What? A gift to see that my husband was going to be there for me no matter what. Photo by david_shankbone. I give him his space...but he also gives me mine. FMD. He should want to provide for her stay at home. It's already not working for you as it is, and you haven't resolved this issue with your husband so why add a second child into the mix as things stand? I have one child and I have been back to work 18 months (also ttc no 2). Working Spouse: That may have been true when they were very little but now, if anything, they'll do … They breastfeed etc. Husband won’t let me be SAHM or part time (544 Posts) Add message | Report. What was decided before you had the 18 month old? Message deleted by MNHQ. Having a child in nursery full time would not make financial sense. You should make a plan to leave. How many times have we read things like ‘I work full time, I allocate all my AL to the school holidays, my husband won’t take time off if the kids are sick because he thinks his job is more important, my husband won’t shop, cook or clean and today I’m home sick and he refused to do the drop off’. yes they are being raised by the nursery - so once they are at shool, your children are also raised by the school? So a bit of background. Was either of your parents cold or critical when you were young? Isn't that what we women have wanted RECOGNISED? Health and time with family should always be a priority over finances. He wants to control you so that you make him the purpose of your life. I’m the main earner in our household but I have a highly stressful managerial job. For me, it meant I was bound to our small apartment with our overactive toddler and still unpredictable infant. Friends may hav… So.. me and my husband are really struggling at the moment. This is page 1 of 22 (This thread has 544 messages.). My family also lives an hour away and generally if there is a party down that way, I go with the kids. I would guess she gets to keep more than 300. Subject: Re:Husband will not let me be a SAHM. He can be so petty. How about an interesting well paid job instead, like the ones men seem to have? Op should invest a couple of years into her child before she goes to school. That parent will be seeing their child for a couple of hours at best on week days. Since having my daughter I have want to be a sahm or part time. I must admit I would be v unhappy if my partner unilaterally decided to make me the only breadwinner and solely responsible for the financials. Meanwhile, her husband had taken a liking to talking to other women and having various spells of infidelity. OP cannot make any decisions alone but if I were her I’d question why he was against part time working if the finances wouldn’t be compromised - that’s very odd. It's perfectly acceptable either way! They are on a chaotic loud noisy room. Theres more to life than been a sahm, dont get me wrong if you can do it them great. Nevertheless, it's a big step to go from the higher earner to SAHM and if your DH doesn't want to suddenly be the sole breadwinner that's understandable too.You need to work through this together and find a solution that suits both of you. [Warning added by MNHQ: distressing content], Can’t get my head round what my mother has done, A plea to those who have/will stop sticking to the restrictions, Has covid-19 affected your plans to become pregnant or TTC? NOWHERE has the OP suggested she will just quit or force her husband to provide for her (the horror! Can you change job? Since having my daughter I have want to be a sahm or part time. We had a similar situation and I was able to negotiate a part-time first, now I work remotely for multiple clients. It's expensive to go to work! Get over yourself. Well there’s no company on the planet which will let you drop hours and keep the same pay. In a nutshell he is pissed I didn't want to quit my job and be a SAHM for Lizzy but I do for our son and so therefore I love our son more and that makes me … You change your life for your kids It's like parents who say they hate being home and work for their sanity. Part time hours on full pay? Anonymous: My son is at an intense college and I'd like to send him modest amounts of money because his debit card is practically empty and I don't want him working and getting in over his head academically. So.. me and my husband are really struggling at the moment. Is it worth it to keep your career trajectory? Anyway, no he can’t stop you leaving your job. It’s equally clear why those threads may encourage women to be WOHP. @SueEllenMishke yes they are being raised by the nursery. One parent should be available. If he’s not happy to compromise and neither are you then it may end up being a dealbreaker. Part time seems a reasonable compromise though. I don't understand pp - one person leaving their job shouldn't be a unilateral decision in a household. I’m the main earner in our household but I have a highly stressful managerial job. Subject: I'm a SAHM and my husband won't let me send money to my teen son. Once the child turns 3 they get some hours funded. Going back full time because you can't stand being home sounds like you don't enjoy mother hood. I feel like this is one of those gotcha threads where the sexes have been reversed. What if both parents want to be a sahp.Where is the mans 'natural' need to provide for his wife and child and let his wife stay home, if he is staying at home.Non of your points make sense. Because your husband does want to spend time with you, he may be afraid that if you homeschool you won’t … Subject: I'm a SAHM and my husband won't let me send money to my teen son. A pp who hadn't read my posts suggested I never mentioned SAHDs. *I actually feel sorry for people who think a mother doesn't have the right to stay at home. Yesterday, USA Today posted a column on their website, entitled Why I Won’t Let My Wife Quit Her Job. And a man like this will never be the one who will make you happy and fulfilled. My husband is my partner, not my superior. When I was pregnant with our first daughter, my husband and I never really sat down to hash out what would happen after she was born. They can't take a sick day because mummy is working. Husband Doesn't Respect Me Because I'm a SAHM. Your marital partner should be your teammate and there is no place for lies in your relationship, even when the truth is harsh and tough. 6 Stretches To Do First Thing In The Morning, According To Experts. ... For Families Torn Apart By Politics, The Election Results Won’t Change Anything. Then your children are with a parent more and there's less impact on money.I wouldn't want my partner to go part time tbh. Oh and I wish people would give over with shit about kids of working parents “being raised by someone else”. Tell him to get a bloody better job. We have massive arguments about it. I have one child and I have been back to work 18 months (also ttc no 2). Anonymous: I had to work 24 hours a week at an internship for 3 years of schooling go - 3 full days/2 days of school (5-6 classes) and it very much impacted my grades. Can you both drop a day? I really don’t know where to go from here. Stay-at-home moms - and actually I think all women do this to a certain point- have a tendency to step away from their individual identity and invest more into being a mom and being a wife. Would PT not be a workable compromise? My husband and I have been married for 4 years and we have a 1.5 year old together. To do this he will manipulate your beliefs, he will control your thinking and your decision making and he will manage your behaviors.He will even change how you think about the world and your place in it. Where you got that she would do it without discussing it, I don't know. When I did. Reading some of the threads on mumsnet I’m not surprised a high percentage of women on mumsnet want to be SAHM. Playing with toys and spending time with family. Who don't understand that marriage is a team, and one who does 50% of the work by staying home, raising a family, attending to the household etc is somehow 'lesser' than a man who does the other 50% by earning.Staying at home is as much if not more so as taxing as 'earning', and I can only presume those that smugly insinuate a SAHM is a bludger, don't have kids and have no idea what it is to be the one at home raising the family.The job is just as valuable as earning actual money. I have one child and I have been back to work 18 months (also ttc no 2). Even if a child is in nursery 8 - 6 for 5 days a week that’s only 50 hours out of a week of 168 hours. Statements like that do nothing but make women feel like shit. It does kind of hurt that my ex’s new wife is a SAHM, but I’m thankful for that too because she is able to be with my kiddo during this Covid epidemic while daycares and schools are closed. If being a SAHM has always been your dream, then you should've married someone who was supportive of your dream. *Don’t feel sorry for me. Hello! In the interest in fairness...would you let him give up work or go part time? That he was going to be someone I could laugh with, have romantic dinners with, walk on the beach with, and enjoy the good times with, but he was also going to be someone who would stay by my side when I was at my worst. NOWHERE has the OP suggested she will just quit or force her husband to provide for her (the horror! It doesn't have to be all or nothing?Did you enjoy your job before? £200 voucher to be won, Win up to £500 worth of clothes: Share what you would buy from Zalando, Husband won’t let me be SAHM or part time, Talk widget showing discussions of the day & trending threads, Subscribe to Mumsnet emails direct to your inbox. Older kiddo is already in elementary school. Thank you, @sueEllenMiskeWell the price of childcare isn't cheap. There is a possible happy medium to this, as many stay-at-home moms have discovered: earn income from home as a part-time … Anonymous: Everyone's already bashing you so I won't add to it but I'll just say my DH doesn't "believe in" SAHMs either. What would you say if your husband wanted to give up work and be a SAHP? I would also hold off on TTC. The ones where you can then later work 15-20 hours to get a bit of pocket money? Anonymous: Anonymous wrote: Anonymous wrote: Anonymous wrote: Anonymous wrote: Anonymous wrote:Everyone's already bashing you so I won't add to it but I'll just say my DH doesn't "believe in" SAHMs either. In no way does that equate to being “raised by someone else”. He say the situation is making him ill. We could afford to live on my husbands salary but would have to make cut backs but my husband likes nice holidays etc. By . Published May 6, 2015. Idk if you're financially dependent on your husband but if so get your ducks in a row my friend. Baby. You should do whatever is best for you Op - Your dh shouldn’t be able to control what you do especially if it’s damaging to your health. Can you move sideways for a bit? That’s why these threads will always be so split and why it needs to be decided on an individual basis between the family, not one person in the family deciding for everyone. Bernetteyog Tue 28-Jan-20 18:01:59. Hello! My husband and I have been married 4 years and have a DS 18months.  I'm 30, he's 35. I really don’t know where to go from here. Staying at home can be a long term solution to a short term problem.I'm not understanding the part time work/full time pay scenario - sounds great! That's another reason sahm choose to stay home. All this adds up to a change in personality for you. poor man having to provide for his family) She has said they have discussed it, had many arguments about it, so she obviously is not justforcinghim to provide for his family. He HATES it! I was referring to posters who said she should just quit. Subject: Re:Husband will not let me be a SAHM. I think you have to make the judgement based on your individual family and family needs. A narcissistic husband is all about control. Well the price of childcare isn't cheap. Let’s talk a little bit about how support gets into place and how long it takes. Good luck. It should be a natural urge for him.Huh? I’m the main earner in our household but I have a highly stressful managerial job. You won't change my view. Small children is a hard stage? What? My husband NEVER goes to the grocery store with me. For our daughter, it meant she would not get to go to her favorite place. S/he asks nicely, begs, gets angry, hopes s/he's planted a seed and gives it time. ... Subject: WWYD: Husband won't let me work part-time. I feel like this is one of those gotcha threads where the sexes have been reversedI thought that! Stay-at-home moms feel guilty for being exhausted and worry they’re not keeping the house neat enough or taking good enough care of the kids, even when their husbands aren’t complaining. So.. me and my husband are really struggling at the moment. Even if a child is in nursery 8 - 6 for 5 days a week that’s only 50 hours out of a week of 168 hours. ... She tried to not let me sleep in the bedroom, which ended up with her now residing in the guest room. A child in childcare is being raised by someone else? And what happens to you in the future Op? And as noted by the above poster - I presume then you acknowledge when your children go to school at age 5, they’re being raised by someone else - by your definition. My friends hate to come by and spend time with me because he gets jealous. I am highly stressed in my job and it’s effecting my health. The additional workload will bring a large pay rise. I'm talking babies and toddlers. I had stated at the outset that a SAHD is fine the same as a SAHM. If being a SAHM has always been your dream, then you should've married someone who was supportive of your dream. I was earning only about 1/8 of what he was anyways, so we decided the most sensible arrangement since getting married was that I'd become a homemaker and SAHM when we had a baby. I have one child and I have been back to work 18 months (also ttc no 2). To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account. Four reasons why your husband is mean and disrespectful. Of course you can't just decide to live off his dollar, you both need to provide for your child, if your job is negatively affecting your health then find another one. Not judging people for not working. That being said, I have a specific job that could be done remotely. How To Ask Someone How They’re Actually Doing Right Now. where children as just commodities like dogs, to be raised by someone else, where a woman is seen as GIVING 50% to the relationship by raising a family and supporting the household (OR SAHDs, for those that want to pounce, but on this post I am responding to the devaluing of SAHMs), it's no longer a case where morals and family values and good old fashioned common sense is timelessAnd where both want be a sahp? Not in my makeup. So.. me and my husband are really struggling at the moment. She sees her mum about 3 hours a day and is with my cousin 10.I've also not said people should not work. It cost me £106 a month for my 2.5 year old to go Monday and Friday for 3 hours a time. Simply because childcare for 2 under 2 will be extortionate. To use this feature subscribe to Mumsnet Premium - get first access to new features see fewer ads, and support Mumsnet. SAHM to me means no more fancy daycare for the 2 year old. Going to parks and stuff too. My husband and I have almost twenty years of wrongdoing between each other. My husband works crazy hard hours so that I can be a SAHM, and when he isn't working he wants to take a break. I give him his space...but he also gives me mine. No one comes here and says 'I work fulltime and dp/dh does half the house work'You arent going to see people posting about their totally normal fair home situation. KennyRogersWasNotInStarWars its mn. How much do you both earn and where do you live?If you're looking at living on his £75k salary in a cheap part of the country it's a very different situation to living on a £25k salary in London, for ex.Do you pay for childcare or do family provide it? Chaunie Brusie. Baby. Then the mum could work 15-20 hi ours a week and keep a wage. But of course there is no reason a dad can't sahm. We have a daughter who is 2 and I am almost 12 weeks pregnant. If your husband doesn’t want to do that and he lets you do all the hard things alone, it means that he doesn’t respect you enough. Hello! Yesterday, USA Today posted a column on their website, entitled Why I Won’t Let My Wife Quit Her Job. He said I will ruin our lives as we will have no money, have to get a cheaper car. The additional workload will bring a large pay rise. Husband Won't Let His Wife Be a SAHM—Say What? By . £200 voucher to be won, Win up to £500 worth of clothes: Share what you would buy from Zalando, Husband won’t let me be SAHM or part time, Talk widget showing discussions of the day & trending threads, Subscribe to Mumsnet emails direct to your inbox. I don’t care what other people do and don’t judge them for their choices but I was not put on this Earth to be kept by another human being and to spend my whole life as a mother and home maker. And continued in that role in their home when they added two more children. So instead of lying on the sofa watching Tele and sleeping. You aren't being unreasonable to want a less stressful job or less hours as a new mother. I work in midlevel management with a good salary but 60 hour weeks not open to flexibility. I'm wondering what the responses would be if the roles were reversed on this thread.I think the decision for anyone to be a SAHP needs to be a joint decision. If your husband isn’t 100% enthusiastic about you staying at home, then it won’t work. I've already said or SAHDs. What does sahm, being norm years ago have to do with anything. Anonymous: My son is at an intense college and I'd like to send him modest amounts of money because his debit card is practically empty and I don't want him working and getting in over his head academically. I don’t want to be around my husband any more and need help getting out of this mess of a relationship. I’m the main earner in our household but I have a highly stressful managerial job. When I did.Then your argument doesnt make sense. He said I will ruin our lives as we will have no money, have to get a cheaper car. To be repulsed at this outcome? If your husband doesn't earn enough to … I don’t know why married women say, “My husband won’t let me,” without even a whiff of self-consciousness or embarrassment. [Warning added by MNHQ: distressing content], Can’t get my head round what my mother has done, A plea to those who have/will stop sticking to the restrictions, Has covid-19 affected your plans to become pregnant or TTC? Raising children is so much more than being with them 24/7. No man wants to have sex with a wife who is constantly mothering him. I am highly stressed in my job and it’s effecting my health. Hello! I think SAHP-ing has to be by mutual agreement. But it's a false narrative and irrelevant.Didnt say she did. The child can play and have a fun. A pp who hadn't read my posts suggested I never mentioned SAHDs. Okay, now let's look at the list of 8 reasons your husband won't have sex with you: 1. Your DH needs to understand that you are suffering, stress is affecting your health and your parenting, and these things unchecked can lead to far bigger problems than smaller cars and less holidays. And treated like a dog?You are utterly ridiculous. My ex was working full time the money wasnt great, eventually i said i had had enough and wanted to work again. Chaunie Brusie. Unfortunately as a single mum of teens, ive got to work plus id be bored. yes they are being raised by the nursery.No they aren't. And what if ops husband wants to go part time or be a sahp and she does too? My employer was happy for me to do part time hours on full pay (which was great) but not I have more workload and I need to do full time hours plus travel (I’m still bfing). A gift to see that my husband was going to be there for me no matter what. Subject: I'm a SAHM and my husband won't let me send money to my teen son. We have massive arguments about it. I feel like he is hanging over me all the time, telling me what I can or can’t do and why I am always wrong. That's how it's supposed to be. Also children are often run down and poorly at nursery. It sounds like it would be better for you to hold off TTC your second child while this situation is ongoing. My husband works crazy hard hours so that I can be a SAHM, and when he isn't working he wants to take a break. Oh no, no one cares for timeless common sense anymore, when they can devalue the contribution a SAHM gives. Refuse-to-Work Spouse: The kids need me here. He HATES it! He works and I agreed to stay at home since the birth of our son. It does sound like it will cause massive problems in your relationship though.Are you sure you want another child with this man?? @Shadyshadow that’s what I meant - on MN there’s a high proportion of threads where the woman works and does everything, so it’s easy to see why lots of women reading and posting on MN want to be SAHM. Husband won’t let me be SAHM or part time (544 Posts) Add message | Report. Wellness. Yes, got forbid the woman takes equal financial responsibility for the child she is an equal parent of.Yes, god forbid the woman takes equal responsibility for her children and wants to contribute by raising a family. Ive was a sahm for 2 months and hated it, always worked. Husband won’t let me be SAHM or part time (544 Posts) Add message | Report. @SueEllenMishkeBut sahm are not doing what's right? * i feel like this is one of those gotcha threads where the sexes have been reversed*The difference with the sexes being reversed though is that DH isn’t actually carrying a baby for nine months, giving birth and then breastfeeding all whilst trying to conceive another one and hold down a high powered job with very long hours - It’s not the same. For the sake of 3 years??? So.. me and my husband are really struggling at the moment. My hubby, like yours, enjoys spending some kid-free time with me in the evenings. I can’t really advise without knowing detailed figures about both incomes and your outgoings. I asked him to please tell me what was bothering him then so we can work through it. To be repulsed at this outcome? Her husband wanted her to quit working and be a stay at home mom to their oldest son over 10+ yrs ago. No he cant stop you leaving your job.But I would leave dp, if he just decided to cut our household budget because he wanted to be part time or stay at home.I am the higher earner and no way would I be financially reliant on my husband or partner.He cant stop you. @katharinaRosalieNo they are getting an education! Bernetteyog Tue 28-Jan-20 18:01:59. Marriage is a partnership of equals - I do my part and my husband does his - and sometimes the work load is 60/40. So.. me and my husband are really struggling at the moment. I said if you have no choice it can't be helped. My husband NEVER goes to the grocery store with me. My cousin works in one and a baby calls her mummy now. But when they go all day everyday they are probably exhausted and missing home. And how come all the men can afford to work, but all women have those tiny little jobs paying minimum wages? Numerous times. Perhaps he needs to apply for a higher paid job and you need to apply for something that is less stressful. It would be very stressful for your husband to be the sole earner, and whilst he seems to be expressing himself badly, he does have a valid point. Burnout is a real thing and can be a huge obstacle to overcome, prevention is so much better than a cure! Let’s talk a little bit about how support gets into place and how long it takes. Mums usually are at home as they birth the baby. He wants all of your time and attention, he wants your praise and adoration and he wants to know that he has total power over you. So in that case, yes, the nursery worker is doing the majority of the child rearing. Your setup needs to change so that when you welcome your next child you aren't in this uncomfortable and stressful situation again. If he wants the nice holidays then he will have to pay for them! I suggest that you examine the dynamic between you and your husband more closely. Where you got that she would do it without discussing it, I don't know. I know we could afford it with me not working but he says it's not fair to him. But he can decide how he wants to deal with it if you do. This is page 12 of 22 (This thread has 544 messages.). Men have managed to raise kids and work for generations.Or are you saying those men didnt raise their kids.Kids who go to school have stopped being raised by their parents at 5? Take this survey - £50 voucher to be won, How have you shown your appreciation for the NHS? What does that even mean? But we're happy to step up and help each other. To use this feature subscribe to Mumsnet Premium - get first access to new features see fewer ads, and support Mumsnet. So surely these full time workers give most of it away anywayOP is the main earner and a high stress managerial job. I understand how you feel but it is very, very unwise to leave a flexible, well paid job to be a SAHM. I wanted to stay home with our daughter after she was born but my husband insisted I go back to work so I did. I have one child and I have been back to work 18 months (also ttc no 2). But unless you have a fantastic job anyway it's not worth it for the sake of keeping £300 out of £1200 a month. If your husband doesn't earn enough to support you two and potential kids, then it doesn't make sense that you'd fight to stay home, knowing there won't be enough money for that. My husband said I'm the only one with a problem so he won't go. Hello! *So it's a game of dibs?Who says they are going to be sahp, first wins?*Huh? I need o calculate now but my childminder (2 DC full time) certainly doesn't get paid more than 10% of my personal income. I don’t think either of you are necessarily being unreasonable, you just might find that your visions of family life might not be compatible. It's sad they don't have some calmer days at home. I’m the main earner in our household but I have a highly stressful managerial job. More and need help getting out of £1200 a month she did to quit working and be a at... 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